This pattern is often written directly in your Spouse Palace (Day Branch) and your Spouse Star.
For example, if your Day Branch has a hidden 7 Killings star, you may unconsciously gravitate toward intense, high-pressure partners — even if they exhaust you. If your Spouse Star is clashed by your own chart, you may repeatedly choose unavailable people as a form of energetic self-protection.
BaZi reveals this pattern so you can see it, understand it, and consciously choose differently. It's not that you're "cursed" — it's that your nervous system is calibrated to a certain frequency. When you know the frequency, you can retune.